So I am putting all my thoughts down as they come. Only because an issue I have struggled with my entire life has happened yet again, though it never stopped.
All my life I have been thin. Healthy thin, but thin. My mother always worried and asked my pediatrician at the time (childhood years) what she can do for me to gain weight. My doctor understood my mothers concern, but always reassured her that it is just my natural body weight and that everything is OK and normal. No matter how much my mom tried to feed me fatty foods, I just naturally stayed thin.
I remember the first time IT actually happened. That others around me started mentioning things to me about my weight. I was in the 7th grade. Me and all the other girls were in the gym locker rooms changing for gym. A couple girls came up to me and asked if I was Anorexic. Me, not being the smartest, had no idea what that mean, but I said NO. Later that day I learned what it meant and was confused. How can they say something like that to me? I eat. I do. I don’t starve myself. I love food.
Ever since that first incident, it just kept going on. No matter where I went, what age I was, who the person was, I always got asked “Do you eat?” Ummm… YES I EAT! Like what kind of question is that? And mind you, I always responded nicely no matter how upset and hurt I was because my nature is to be nice and not mean to people. I just don’t understand it. I really don’t. You don’t see me or most smart people walking over to heavier people and asking if they diet. You just DON’T. Its not a normal question for both sides, thin or thick. And many people who have asked me are nice and sweet and mean well, but they just sadly do not understand this is not something you ask people or even comment about. Even so you may think its OK because thin people are “lucky”, NO. You just don’t. Because thin people have insecurities just as much as anyone else.
This just kept going on daily growing up. Then at one point a friend came up to me and said someone thought I was anorexic. She told me how she explained to them that she sees me eat and I eat a TON. This person responded with “Well, then she’s Bulimic and you don’t see she throws up her food afterwards.” Like WOW. Some people just can’t control themselves. Maybe they’re jealous? Maybe not? I don’t know. I wish I knew the thought process these people have and where they come from.
The thing is though, as much as I am naturally thin, thankfully I have my curves and all. I was never stick straight with nothing to see. I like to call it tastefully thin.
Then when I got married, people worried I wouldn’t get pregnant because I was considered “underweight.” This is a bunch of BS. I am sorry. I know someone who is very heavy and the same saying goes for heavier set people. But its NOT TRUE. We both got pregnant no issues Thank G-d. And multiple times. Anyone can get pregnant regardless of weight unless they have some health issues making it hard.
Now let me tell you, during pregnancy the first time, I gained almost 50 pounds (almost week late at birth). OMG was I happy haha! With my second I gained about 45 pounds but also had her a week early. Thats why I loved being pregnant. It’s the only time I can keep on the weight (until the baby is born LOL).
When it came to nursing, it made me shed off the pounds too quickly. I did not like this. Was heartbreaking. It’s like finally! I have extra 10 last pounds, but no, breastfeeding took that all away. And then I got asked another stupid question. Now before I reveal that question, here’s a little side note: So I am quite small up top and I am happy with that. My midwife even said its better smaller as you don’t suffocate the baby. But this person with their stupid question takes stupidity to another level. She asked: How do you breastfeed your daughter being so small? Do you even have milk? (and she had a child and breastfed herself, so you would think she was knowledgeable, but I guess not). After she asked that dumb question, I just gave her a look and said breast size has NOTHING to do with milk production. I left it at that, but wanted to so give it to her. I wanted to be like “It’s called milk ducts you idiot, not the fat in your breasts which produce the milk!” But whatever, there are many people like this in the world unfortunately and we have to suck it up sometimes for the sake of being mutual.
Another thing that really bothered me and still does is “why I work out.” When I mention I am or say I want to, people put me down by saying “you’re so thin you don’t need to lose more weight.” Ummm…. working out is not only for losing weight. It’s for staying healthy and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. I even had these things said to me last night at my first ever Zumba class. My friend asked me to go with her. She said its fun. I agreed. And it was fun! But the comments were very unnecessary. Look, they all came from a good place. But sometimes, comments and questions are not meant to be said. They just don’t realize even thin people have their issues.
So to end this off, I have dealt with stupid comments about my weight growing up and even to this day. Just remember, whether you’re thin, thick or whatever category you put yourself into, you are perfect just the way you are. As long as you are happy, then that is all that matters!
The Stylish Mommy 