My mom used to always tell me that being a mom isn’t easy. We’re talking way back like 11 years ago before Adela was born. I was only 20/21 years old, a baby, and honestly didn’t realize what she exactly meant by “being a mom isn’t easy.”
All I thought it meant was sleepless nights, constantly taking care of a human being so no more partying and so on. Boy was I wrong. The sleepless nights and taking care of a human being was the easy part of mothering. I instantly knew what she meant after Adela was born. It’s that mom anxiety.
That mom anxiety you may be thinking? Let me explain…
I’m sure all moms out there know what that mom anxiety is. It’s the constant worry. Worrying about your child. Their health. Their successes. Their failures. Their sad days. Their hard days. Their everything.
For me, I’m constantly worrying about their health. I freak at every little thing. That’s that mom anxiety for me. It’s to the point that when my third, Zahava is ready for bed, I go to my room with her and when she’s asleep and in her bassinet I stay in the room until the next morning when I wake up. I want to make sure she’s okay. I feel like I myself can’t trust monitors etc. They can malfunction, ya know? Scary, but true.
And with my older girls? Same. I freak about their health. Not long ago they both had a virus (at different times and different types) and I was just nervous every single day they were sick. Thankfully they don’t get sick often so seeing them off just freaks me out. I always fear the worst. I know, it’s a bad habit. But blame it on that mom anxiety.
Believe me when I say that that mom anxiety is the real deal and ain’t nothing fun about it.
I honestly don’t think it’s ALL got to do with some sort of postpartum mental health issue. Because let’s be real, all moms worry about their kids. It’s constant and on the daily. It’s like a normal occurrence for all mothers out there.
To many, it seems like being a mom is easy. That’s until they have kids. And it is and isn’t. Kids are a blessing, but that mom anxiety comes with kids. It’s a package deal. But I wouldn’t change any of it for the world!
And I know that that mom anxiety isn’t something that will go away as the kids get older and are married and start a family of their own. That mom anxiety will forever stick with me. I know my mom daily worries about my siblings and I. ALWAYS. It’s just apparently what moms are meant to do.
To all the amazing moms out there, just remember that we are all in this together. All these worries and fears are normal, and healthy might I add. We just need to take a breath and embrace this amazing job we have called “motherhood.”