Dealing with Children and Chutzpah (Disrespect)

Okay people. Let’s get this straight. Yes, I have 2 girls who are pretty damn good at being “chutzpahdik.” In case you don’t know what that is exactly, it means, well let’s say this as nicely as possible… Little shits. Yup, sorry!

The disrespect children have this generation is insane. I don’t remember being disrespectful to my parents and if I did, oh hell no! And it’s just crazy. They feel like they can do whatever they want. If I say no, I get a “well, I don’t care. Aba (dad) will let me.” Ummm, no child! Your father will not let you and I’ll be sure of it!

And I’ll admit, I haven’t been so good at disciplining them when it comes to being disrespectful. Sometimes, I don’t even realize it. It’s almost like I feel no matter what I do, it won’t work, so I’ve almost given up. But I have had it to the max and I’m so DONE. And kids have it so easy this generation because it’s illegal to give them a nice good “potch” (slap) in the ass.

Since I’ve been going crazy with their disrespect, well more so from my little drama queen, I’ve decided I will share some tips (I found online) for stopping it (if we can?). And I’m sure it may be too late for my kids and harder to discipline them at this point, but hey, why not try?

Treating the Chutzpah/Disrespect Behavior

Nip it in the bud, like ASAP!

Basically people, no matter what age the disrespect comes in, act on it and IMMEDIATELY! Yup, that’s my issue, I don’t always act on it. Totally and brutally honest here. I have a little more time and I need to stop their nasty chatter back ASAP. The more I let it slide, the mouthier my little angles will get when they hit tweens and teens. Not to mention one is already a tween? And the other acts like she’s already 20. Ughhhh!

Stay Calm Y’all – If You Can!

Don’t yell people. Okay, yes I’m at fault for this one, but hey, sometimes you can’t help but get pissed right then and there. Apparently the yelling and irritation by parents (me) makes the mood set to anger and that doesn’t help the situation one bit. It just sets us up for a long struggle to come with the little ones. Oh man do mine and I have chitter chatter back and forth. It needs to stop!

Basically they say to ignore them until they are respectful… Wow, okay so maybe if I get yelled at I’ll just walk away? I’ll definitely have to try it. Sounds like something with a mean comment from a mean person – they say just walk away and they won’t feel satisfied seeing you don’t give two shits. In a way, it makes sense. Okay fine, this does sound like something that would work. But don’t tell me I’m being a bad parent if I ignore them during their “chutzpah” moments!

Model Respect – Yes, Us Parents

You know that saying that kids do what parents do? Or say what parents say? Holy shit is that true. I see myself act like my parents in ways and I swore I never would and now I see my kids doing the same. Gotta take that habit out of here because apparently it ain’t helping any situation. For instance, I’ve said something to my youngest and now I hear my oldest saying it to her. Oh hell no child, that ain’t your position. Okay, if I fix it, it will help them fix their “chutzpah.”

Explain Why What They Said Or Did Was Disrespectful

Oh man, not always do I have time for this. It’s like when they disrespect me, I ain’t got patience no more – it’s like get out of my face and go to your room. Oh, and you’re grounded! Haha, wow. I need to step it down a notch and that’s why this is a tip for treating a “chutzpadik” child. If we stop them right then and there and explain what they did or said was not okay, maybe they’ll listen. My mom always told me that kids will only listen if you talk nicely. So gotta try my patience game with this one!

Explain Punishments, And Make Sure They Are Good!

Hell ya! The second I start going off about taking away electronics, I start getting the whining of how they’re sorry and won’t do it again LOL! Ummm, child, listen here… If you will continue to be disrespectful, sorry, but the laptop is gone. And it has worked, sometimes. But I’m not consistent, so I need to be! I think a good few times of serious punishment (and take away what they love and enjoy most) will teach them a lesson.

Don’t forget parents, children and chutzpah is a very normal thing unfortunately. We just need to learn the right way to deal with it then and there. Let them know who’s boss. Let them know they won’t get away with it, unless they want to be grounded on the daily. And trust me, they don’t!

Hopefully these little few tips will help us all deal with this new generation of children and disrespect. We need all the help we can get to be honest! But it all starts with us parents. We got this!!